Commandments Of Cool

Even to this day, I have a hard time chitchatting for chitchat sake. I get bored, uneasy, quiet. The one thing I do know how to do is ‘turn on.’ When I am working a room and know there are important people to meet – I seek out conversation and break the ice by giving eye contact and reading people. It is important to read a person when in conversation. If that person is not giving back as much as you are putting into the conversation because they (a) don’t care (b) are looking for a hotter chick (or dude) (c) think you are less than them, ask them a random question with a little humor. It’s good to catch people of guard and humor is one of the keys to success and coolness. Don’t ever take yourself too seriously, but don’t be a loud, crude jokester either. People love compliments not matter who they are, but don’t ever over do it or comment on something obvious or ‘price or brand worthy’ like a diamond ring, Gucci bag or Rolex watch. That’s just predictable. Do comment of shade of lipstick, tattoo, shoes, hair cut, anything unique, vintage and/or more intimate and of smaller detail so the person knows you are actually paying attention to them. Don’t ever, ever comment on how big or make a fuss about a person’s uber large house. That’s just tacky. Play the wow factor down…always. Walk into a mansion and say “nice crib” or “beautiful taste” or “a lovely home” and leave it at that and never make a big deal out of it.